TGIF

Its Friday,yes thank God its Friday ! Friday is always special and today its a little bit more special because next week i'll be going to Saudi Arabia for some business purposes-and hopefully,insyaAllah to do my Umrah ! Its been hectic the last few months,a culmination of work,personal responsiblities and professional commitments. Because of the work load my time at the surau has been getting less and less. I feel sad actually but sometimes meetings and work carry over towards magrhib...by the time i get out of office im totally zonk. But i realize that this is not good for me on the spiritual side. I guess its something that you have to work with. Iman is not a constant ! Abt my trip to Saudi it has been changed three times, the dates ! Just to accomodate the VIP's ,im pissed ! I know im not suppose to be,but its difficult to make plans if the dates keep on changing. The trip which is suppose to take place in April has changed because so many times...
Friday thus makes you think more about Allah swt than normal days and there r many sources that testify to this. So we should make the effort to muhasabah ourselves on this day,what we have accomplished in the last few days of the previous week etc. Ive got to decide on my business,where r we going what needs to be done,how long should we stay in this business as the cost of staying in business is rather high ! But its also ibadah as we provide rezeki to others of course Gods rezk,we r just the channel. Anyways...time to get to work!!!

The need to write...

Sometimes, i wonder why there are so many people using the "blog" to pour their heart out,their thoughts and innermost emotions. I think people in general have this need to tell others,to tell a story,to share but in todays volatile world,people are too busy with their daily life...for them just to sit down and have a chat with each other. The other problem is to find the right person to talk to. I guess creative people (like writers) end up being great story tellers,by writing a book,producing a movie,witing a play etc,others have great stories to tell to but end up just keeping it in them...sigh

R writers then lonely people or they choose to be private in person but expressive in writing. Or is it a little of both...

Searching for the creator...

I met an excellent speaker ( preacher ) last night. His story is truly amazing and it strenghten my believe that if you truly set your mind in search of the creator-almighty God will help and assist you in finding him. This man is highly successful in his career,has a good family and throughout his life never had to face insurmountable problems...yet he feels empty because his heart was seaching for his creator. The ultimate reason for living. His longing was answered in many subtle ways-for God was providing him with clues-clues which later made sense when he finally submitted to the will of Allah swt. There is a lot more details in this amazing story but i dont have the "expertise" to actually tell it all here. But there a few common occurences in this story as with other stories of people searching for the truth amongst them are 1. You have to be sincere with yourself-youre doing this because there is a voice in you that is not satisfied until you have found the truth. 2.Your journey of discovery is not easy it is littered with challenges and pitfalls 3. You have to read,discuss and continously meet with people of different religion and faith. 4.You must not form conclusiond from limited information nor have prejudices, but most of all you must ask God to help and guide u. Godwilling you find your creator and he will let you find him.

Future World Cup Winners.

I love children and watching them grow up is one of the better things in life. I have been following the under 12 soccer tournament for the last twelve months and i'm impress with the character of all the teams participating in this tournament, they play hard,compete well and show a high degree of sportsmanship. The comradship ( sp) is also excellent and i must compliment the teachers for playing their part in making the whole event a success. The playing standard is also excellent for 12year olds. The finals is on Wednesday and im looking forward to it, i hope the children will play their hearts out and do themselves proud. I remember how i felt as a child the sheer joy of winning and the pain of losing. Its a special feeling and its part of character building-you learn to accept defeat but you know the estacy of winning-and of scoring that winning goal.

Too much to do...

They say you have to be organized in order to manage your own company or even manage your life. But how organised should or could you be if you dont get the support that you need from your staff,its impossible to do everything by yourself. Therefore you should ( they say )delegate but some times when you delegate it never gets done the way you want it done. Its possible that im not managing my staff properly,not giving them proper guidance and training. Its also possible that these people are not so committed because they dont feel that they belong that its just a temporary place,a place to earn some wages not a place to built a career !! On the other hand maybe my expectations are just too high,well here i am working on a Sunday afternoon so that i will be better prepared for the coming week...but none of my staff are around despite having datelines to clients just around the corner. Life should be simpler...

How to communicate...lets talk..without walls.

Humans are indeed strange creatures. They never intentionally hurt others,well according to most people anyway,but more often than not they do. This usually occurs in a situation where a person feels ( not necessarily true ) that they are on the defensive and therefore have to be on the offensive in order to "show"/tell others that they are right. Its the human/man's defensive sytem if you like, for to not have any ego is to be seen to be vurnarable or weak...but you should not try to hurt others or try not to hurt others on purpose.Confusing la my sentence...

Anyway i see a lot of this happening in meetings,discussions or even in informal forums of a group of people. Why does this occur ? When a group of people gather or interact,even as small as two,certain emotions come into play. if you are close to that person than these emotions are non existent or at a minimal harmless level.



The wider the gap ( superior-subordinate,teacher-student ) the more complex the emotions involve-fear,insecurity,self esteem or lack of it. The gap could also be a result of a different level of mastery of a language(between 2 teachers-same profession but communicates well in different languages),different level of education (same position but..),experience and background ( Kampong boy, Broken Family,few siblings,large family).



The point is that communication skills is not easy. Its exactly that SKILLS and if everyone can improve on their communication skills it would be a good initial step towards improving human relationships. Some people communicate better when they write but this needs a totally different approach/analysis. What we are trying to analyse here is the face to face verbal communication. Most of the time i get along fine with most people,but sometimes its mission impossible,its as if we are from two different worlds. But there are other times it could be the same person ( that normally we communicate well ) that because of "circumstances" we just cant talk and even end up fighthing. Theres more to this but its just not easy to communicate when youre rushing to do things so till next...

Hey i now know how to post pictures ...enjoy this one...its found near my kampong in Perak. The idea is to get people to close the gate on the way down to the river as to stop cows and goats and small children from getting into the river/grazing area/kampong or the other way around ! i Think...!