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My LIFE @ 50...

I'm 50 today !! Yes i was born today,( 50 years ago)Friday( same day too, today ),25 December 1959-in my I/C its the 27th,this is because when my Dad when to report to the police station,on Monday, they decided to just report the DOB as 27th(which was a Sunday) to avoid hassels of not reporting it earlier !( was born at home in Kpg Datuk Keramat,Kuala Lumpur ( then Selangor ).

Time flies,it seems just yesterday,that I just graduated from ITM,(got married in between),then from universities in the States.

Im happily married, I have 5 wonderful children that God has granted me-each with their own unique character-life has been good to me-Alhamdulillah.I hope and pray,everyday, to Allah swt that they will be successful in this life and in the hereafter,that they will always be guided and protected by the All mighty,Allah swt forever.i wish i could be a better parent,but i think ive done a pretty reasonable job and pray(and hope) that Allah swt will accept what i have done and reward me.

Two of my eldest daughters are married to reasonably nice blokes,whom at least to what i have seen are people who are reasonable,treat my daughters well and more importantly do their solat.i have a wonderfully absolutely cute cucu ( 10 mnts old ) They( my sons in law) are not bad looking either. Their parents ( both) are wonderful people who share similar values on family,life and religion and are basically nice people-Alhamdoolillah.


As for my career,i started as a teacher (@ITM) lecturer ? ( almost 10 years) i like the term teacher better,( left to try the outside world) have work for one of the country's big(gest) conglomerate then,also with one of the worse run ones ! Started as a project manager and(and three companies later) my last position before i resigned and open my own business was a GM ( was a GM in my late 30's ).

Have been completely on my own for the last ten years( wth Allah's help and permission) and i think Ive done reasonably well.I'm not financially independent yet...but i hope to be in the next few years.I have work hard and i hope before i celebrate my 60th birthday,i will be able to spend more time with my children,cucu s-more time to read,write... ( one of my passions ),and more time wth my wife,travelling and just doing things together.


Travelling-i have done my fair share,gone to most major cities of the world,maybe i hope one day to travel to places like Alaska,Sahara,Africa,Amazon,North/South pole .Yes perhaps,perform my Hajj a second time ( first one was in 2005 ).,well these are my initial thoughts this morning as i celebrate my 50th year of existence...

something to ponder...

...last week it was reported in the Star that the police officer that will be charged in the death of Kugan is an Indian officer. What is interesting is that this report was somewhere in the middle pages and in a rather hidden corner. This is where i feel that Newspapers are not playing their role in dismissing stereotyping of race,it was long assume that the police officers involved was Malay and that Malays in Government position was abusive,corrupted etc. Abusive people are found in ALL races.

...today in the Star (F33) Zainah Anwar says that Malaysia is turning into a police state like Iran and Afghanistan under Taliban rule.She has a whole page column to air her views.This is because one lady was found guilty of drinking and has been sentence to be caned( of course she never mentions that the lady herself has repented and wants to be caned). She laments on other cases of VVIP/Males not meted the same punishment etc.(two wrongs does not make a right) of the inefficiency and waste of resources of the Syariah courts...

There seems to be a lot of anger and "hate" in her article...

Why doesnt the Star on the very opposite page allows a differing view ? Is there a hidden agenda ? Can someone enlighten Malaysians, how many cases are there involving drunks,abusive couples,accidents etc that is directly related to "drinking" alcohalic drinks...
The number of divorce cases that is backlog in the civil courts...

People like her are confusing the non Muslims...may Allah swt forgive her and guide her...

A quick thought on our Current woes...

Why we need to find an answer and quickly. Malaysia is at a critical stage in its political development,while we look relatively stable on the surface,there is a strong under current of discontent,the signs are there for all to see.The case of the cows head in the Shah Alam temple's case,the MIC election and its "expected" outcome,the going ons in MCA and PKFZs case.As for UMNO,it has yet to win a by election in the Peninsular !The new Selangor's state government has not been spared either,the issue of selling alcohol in a Muslim neighbourhood,SELCATs methods being question and the apparent spilt in Pakatan and PAS.Oh... ,and the "fall" of the elected Perak state government.All these and more in the last 20 months or so.Race relations are fragile,the non Malays feel that things have not changed much since the last general elections while the Malays believe that their rights are being eroded to accommodate the demands of the non Malays. Of course this is a generalisation of the situation in Malaysia. Many Malaysians on the other hand have managed to look beyond racial sentiments ( the reason for strong showing of Pakatan ) to send a strong message to the ruling coalition that "Malaysians" has had enough of mismanagement,corruption,power abuse etc by some members of the ruling coalition. The new Prime Minister is trying his best to solve this image problem of BN,(and in particular UMNO) some real,some imagined.While some of his efforts can be lauded,the overall impact is still too little. For one,in order for the PM not to lose Malay votes ( ie the ones who are Pas supporters but not hard core members) they must stop being critical of personalities like Nik Aziz and Anwar Ibrahim.Instead they should focus on real issues ( nation building,poverty,corruption,economic prosperity,race relations,religious issues ),they should send the message that they are the best solution to solve the country's problems and woes.For the past 20 months,they have yet to provide concrete plans to solve the problems that has cause their worse election results since Independence. At the time of writing this article,what has happen to the Lingams case ? What will be the outcome of PKFZ ? these issues ( and many others)needs a satisfactory ending or else the outcome of the 14th general elections is a forgone conclusion.Sweeping issues under the carpet(and thinking that it will be forgotten and forgiven is a wrong and suicidal attitude.Malaysia still need a multi racial coalition that ensures the Malays that their rights are protected-not through bias contracts or quotas or patronising policies-but by ensuring that the Malay language and culture and religion will be given its due standing.Not through domination but through policies that ensure its acceptance by all Malaysians.What makes a Malaysian ? Most non Malays have accepted that this country must have one binding language and culture and because historically this is a Malay nation than the language should be Malay and the culture Malay based-they don't have to apologize for this by policies that seems to contradict this fact.This happens in all previous civilization,the minority adapts to the majority and still happens in most countries-Australia,Britain,USA,China. the minority adapts but without losing their culture and identity and in some areas there is a mix of all local cultures,which develops over time.This must be the basis of a truly united Malaysia,but it must exist in an environment of "strong and principled leadership"(SPL) there is no choice,if the current leadership of both BN and Pakatan does not reflect the SPL and accept the fact that this is a Malay majority nation,I'm afraid that we are living in a dangerous "time bomb" (that needs immediate diffusion) that is about to explode...God forbids.

Time-the lack of it...

There is very little time to do things that you really want to do when theres so many things that you" have"to do.How do you manage time ? Things that you have to do ( responsiblities) usually takes most of your time-work,family and social responsiblities and leaves u with very little time for things that you realy want to do-read,exercise,write,travel,play games-soccer,golf etc.

Is it bad time management if you seem to always have no time ? Or is it a result of modern day living-everything is so fast so demanding ? The more efficient you become the more you are required to do. ven after carrying out all your responsiblities and say you want to read a book,theres so many topics and genres that interest me that i dont know where to start ! That i end up not reading and doing something else like - writing well not that its bad,but i feel that so many2 things that i want to do but its not done.

Tommorrow is fully pack with work from morning untill night and the balance of today is so very precious,but ive still got some responsiblities to carry out (visit my Mom in law ). And of couse its Syaaban and therefore i should spend more time at the surau for solat jemaah. Infact because of all these worldly responsibilities and my own lack of will i have not been going tothe Surau for berjemaah regularly.

i see my mom and dad at least once a week-but when im there i feel sad for them because they wish that their children will spend more time with them.but their children have all grown up and have their own family and life and this cycle is happening to me too...

My own children are growing up fast too,i have five and three have started having their own life too-meaning away from home. it seems only yesterday that they were my little babies. i guess my parents feel the same way,although im going to be 50 soon and they are in their eighties.To my parents all their children are still their babies and they expect us to be around as much as possible.

time...theres just not enough

letih ooi...

Its really "sickening" when people,especially when its your so called "friends" make "judgements" about you.And worse still without knowing the whole story,or getting views only from one side and making judgements based on a "perception that is created" by another person.





Perception is precisely that,just a perception. Its not the real thing,its an image that is created to convey a certain message. There are times that the perception is real but more often than not ,its not. I have this problem that in general I'm perceived to be "snobbish/egoistic". Some say its the " face",some say its my ways-but I really dont care. Sometimes i use it to my advantage,anyway ,God willing,most people are quite comfortable with me after knowing me.

Herein lies part of the problem,there are people who "think" they are close to me,who do not like the idea that when I'm perceive to be close to a newer person in the circle. If the other new person is of the opposite sex,the problem is further compounded.





That's OK,but when they start creating all sorts of lies just to make me look bad that is totally unfair and uncalled for,what is worse is people whom i care, tend to believe this lies!! I guess telling bad things about people is more enjoyable than telling about good things,kot ? Im trying my best to ignore this group of people and carry out my task of running my business. Most of the time its manageable but sometimes...geram sangat !!!

REFORMASI 2-BY DS NAJIB TUN RAZAK...

Like most Malaysians, I would like to give Premier Najib Tun Razak a chance with his reform movement. However i have some concerns when i read in the newspapers about the demands of MCA ( we want same number of Ministers,then they demanded a Chinese DPM and Deputy Chairman for BN ) and MIC ( we "might" withdraw from the cabinet because we are not represented ( with a senior minister post )in the Cabinet,despite being the third largest member of the coalition). It seems that despite the message that our PM is trying spread ( 1Malaysia concept ) the main components of the ruling coalition is still very much thick with racial sentiments. Somehow when Malays talk about their rights,ther are labelled racist,but MCA,MIC says a lot of things that are hurtful to the Malays at large. This is of course is followed by an official denial ( as in the case of MIC) and silence on the part of the MCA. This old tactic of "Baling Batu Sorok Tangan " is and old political ploy that has been practised by BN and its partners ( including UMNO ). Old habits are hard to get rid of.
So will the premier's reform programme succeed ? At this rate,unlikely. But its still early days and for the sake of the country I do hope he succeeds. There are issues he needs to tackle immediately if his reform is too succeed.

1.BN must be and must be seen to be truly multi racial and yet with the acceptance that it will be lead by UMNO ( a clean and trustworthy UMNO ).The current political reality and scenario ( 60++% of the county is still Malay/Muslim dominated ) still demands that this country be lead by a Malay and a Malay lead coalition.

2.UMNO must really be reformed-no corruption and the battle cry must be truly..."Demi Bangsa,Ugama and Negara" and not "what is it in for me",as that is the current battle cry and culture of patronage. PAS and DAP have very clear guiding (though sometimes conflicting) principles-but their members joint the party because they strongly feel that their party's solution is the way forward for the society and the Nation as oppose to most who joint UMNO,MCA and .MIC. PAS and DAP leaders are seen to be clean,honest and trustworthy ( Nizar,Lim Guan Eng,Lim Kit Siang)

3.BN/UMNO/PM must take cognizance that Dato Seri Anwar Ibrahim is still a factor. For a start, you should know by now that the more you criticise DSAI the more popular he becomes. You have no choice but to engage him. He is and will always be a factor in Malaysian politics. Ignore this fact and i would say your chances for reform and a victory in PRU13 is zero. The country will be more diversified as the coalition that wins PRU13 whether PR or BN will not be strong enough to form a strong and stable government.

4.Please my dear PM, be your own man,do not fall into the trap that has been set by the former PM Tun Mahathir. Although he was and still is a brilliant leader,there are aspects of his leadership that you should nor emulate ( perception of being anti Islam, perception of controlling the courts and not really listening to the grassroots.)

5.You must also accept the fact that the majority of Malays are divided along political belief/lines and this reconciliation is the most single important agenda facing u,unite the Malays and most of the country's problem will be solved. How ? In my next write up insyaAllah...
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