Future World Cup Winners.

I love children and watching them grow up is one of the better things in life. I have been following the under 12 soccer tournament for the last twelve months and i'm impress with the character of all the teams participating in this tournament, they play hard,compete well and show a high degree of sportsmanship. The comradship ( sp) is also excellent and i must compliment the teachers for playing their part in making the whole event a success. The playing standard is also excellent for 12year olds. The finals is on Wednesday and im looking forward to it, i hope the children will play their hearts out and do themselves proud. I remember how i felt as a child the sheer joy of winning and the pain of losing. Its a special feeling and its part of character building-you learn to accept defeat but you know the estacy of winning-and of scoring that winning goal.

Too much to do...

They say you have to be organized in order to manage your own company or even manage your life. But how organised should or could you be if you dont get the support that you need from your staff,its impossible to do everything by yourself. Therefore you should ( they say )delegate but some times when you delegate it never gets done the way you want it done. Its possible that im not managing my staff properly,not giving them proper guidance and training. Its also possible that these people are not so committed because they dont feel that they belong that its just a temporary place,a place to earn some wages not a place to built a career !! On the other hand maybe my expectations are just too high,well here i am working on a Sunday afternoon so that i will be better prepared for the coming week...but none of my staff are around despite having datelines to clients just around the corner. Life should be simpler...

How to communicate...lets talk..without walls.

Humans are indeed strange creatures. They never intentionally hurt others,well according to most people anyway,but more often than not they do. This usually occurs in a situation where a person feels ( not necessarily true ) that they are on the defensive and therefore have to be on the offensive in order to "show"/tell others that they are right. Its the human/man's defensive sytem if you like, for to not have any ego is to be seen to be vurnarable or weak...but you should not try to hurt others or try not to hurt others on purpose.Confusing la my sentence...

Anyway i see a lot of this happening in meetings,discussions or even in informal forums of a group of people. Why does this occur ? When a group of people gather or interact,even as small as two,certain emotions come into play. if you are close to that person than these emotions are non existent or at a minimal harmless level.



The wider the gap ( superior-subordinate,teacher-student ) the more complex the emotions involve-fear,insecurity,self esteem or lack of it. The gap could also be a result of a different level of mastery of a language(between 2 teachers-same profession but communicates well in different languages),different level of education (same position but..),experience and background ( Kampong boy, Broken Family,few siblings,large family).



The point is that communication skills is not easy. Its exactly that SKILLS and if everyone can improve on their communication skills it would be a good initial step towards improving human relationships. Some people communicate better when they write but this needs a totally different approach/analysis. What we are trying to analyse here is the face to face verbal communication. Most of the time i get along fine with most people,but sometimes its mission impossible,its as if we are from two different worlds. But there are other times it could be the same person ( that normally we communicate well ) that because of "circumstances" we just cant talk and even end up fighthing. Theres more to this but its just not easy to communicate when youre rushing to do things so till next...