Communication Skills,

Problems or issues are seen or understood differently by people. Sometimes when discussing a particular problem/issue participants think they are talking about the same thing,but they are not. That's the reason for definitions i assume. Even when a word or an issue is define it still brings different meaning to different people.



It gets more complicated when we are discussing technical issues. For example, the word design means "to create a new or improve an existing environment" to an Urban Planner/Designer but to an Artist it is to create something completely new( on a canvas,pottery,new song ). A situation created by design-means to scheme or plan a situation. So is designing,scheming ?

So where is this all leading to ? Its just sometimes sooo frustrating ,when you re in a meeting when you feel that you have done your best,then you have people still asking questions which is ( in your opinion ) totally unrelated that you have just said. Could it be done purposely ? or could people be that blurr or have i not transmitted across well enough the point I'm trying to make ?



When we say multi disciplinary-do we mean skills in many areas or do we mean generalist ? Is a specialist better than a generalist ? If its surgery-yes ! If its a date no ! Generalist tend to have a negative connotation in the academia ( general degree ) but is preferred as an administrator. MBAs tend to be multi disciplinary in order for its holder to be accepted into most business organization/situation.

In the Malaysian context,what does "ketuanan Melayu" means ? If it means that Malays are the Masters or Owners of this country or Malays are more superior, Malaysians of other race cannot accept it. Especially so if the concept of Ketuanan Melayu is use as a cover for reasons more for political/financial gains by some politicians.

I have had some discussions with my Chinese and Indian friends and most ( the majority ) of them agree that if Ketuanan Melayu means that it is an acknowledgement that this country had its origin as a Malay homeland,the lingua franca is Bahasa Melayu and that the culture of this land is Malay bias-they have no problem with that. Just like if i was born in the UK or US or China-i would have to accept that England is the homeland of the English,the culture is English and the official language is English. But i cannot the accept the fact or the concept of English Supremacy !

We are living in a very small and fast moving world,if we Malays think that "Ketuanan Melayu" will save the Malays, we are dead wrong.

Busy,busy,busy...

...Its really been v2 bad recently. Whenever i thought the next day or week will be less hectic,something last minute will always come around. For the past 10 days ive been to Penang/Alor Setar three times ( three different trips ) and the last one was nearly trapped in the massive traffic jam due to an overturn crane on the bridge. 2moro morning im leaving for Penang again ! Its like a very tiring routine,wake up at three and drive to penang at 4am to be in time for an 8am meeting !!Work itself is very challenging without having to encounter ridiculous people whose ability to think and make decisions are very limited. Is empowerment not part of the bureaucracy ? It can be very disheartening at times,but thank God there are still many intelligent and hardworking ones around. Issues that can be and should be resolved in a day,takes days,weeks or months !

Im still in the office,preparing for 2moros presentation and meeting,but a quick write up just to release a little pressure and let my daughters ( and sons-who dont read my blog) know that Im ok,and to always know that i do think of them a lot and that i love them very2 much...

A tribute to Achik

Its been a very eventful year so far to say the least. My auntie pass away about two weeks ago,she was suffering from lukemia for the pass two years. The battle against the white blood cells finally took the its toll against her. She was my father's youngest and only sister ( she was adopted as a baby from a chinese family who were running away from the communist 66 years ago) and is very dear to the family. I have always call her Achik ( mak cik kecik-the youngest ) and the younger ones,including my children, call her Opah Cik. She has four daughters and the eldest is also adopted. When i was young,i used to stay with my grandparents in kampong ( Bota Kanan,Perak) and interacted alot with Acik and her husband ( Tok Umar ),although an uncle by rank through the marriage with Acik,had the status of Tok as he is the rank of cousin with my grandad,but not really a cousin ! People of that generation are very close to each other and are somehow related to one another,that is another story,to be told and behold...
What i remember most about my Acik was that she call my Tok Umar-"D",short for darling ! I didnt know then,and wondered why,later when i knew i thot its so sweet. I guess it was scandalous to be calling your husband darling at that time...
They were loving and spend lots of time together for they did not have a child for a long2 time,of course after they adopted one,the next three followed very quickly. I think the reward of adopting a child was rewarded instantly by Allah swt. Since my dad and his eldest brother had already migrated to KL in the early 60's,my Achik had to also take care of my Grandparents. So whenever i balik kampong,she was always around as well. She would always would cook gulai tempoyak for us,(my favourite-with ikan keli) with sambal buah quinin (sp) and of course despite this very kampond dish would make excellent tea and the best kopi o in town...theres more to tell.
Anyway,i miss her and pray that Allah swt will place her among the soilihin.Ameen,

The end is near...

Its truly a sad day for Malaysian Politics,when thru sheer political maneuvering the Pakatan Rakyat Perak Government has been replaced by Barisan Nasional. The reasons given by the four ADUNs leaving the PR/DAP were unbelievably stupid,only morons and idiots would accept it.

Two of these ADUNs have been charged with corruption ( receiving sexual favours ) one just left UMNO two weeks ago and has decided to rejoin,for reasons only known to himself. For the record it was reported in the mainstream newspapers that his wife told the current MB that he was kidnapped for a few hours before the DPM press conference...

The lady from DAP , it was stated was not happy because she did not recvd a Toyata Camry ! My God !!!...and UMNO recvd these people ( whose intelligence and moral values r in question )with open arms just so that they can take over the Perak Goverment.

I dont know where UMNO recvd its intelligence report from,they say the people of Perak support these moves. The feedback that i get is the complete opposite,this has only cemented the fact that UMNO is a corrupted party and waiting for its imminent death. This episode has only help to expedite the process...

My advise to all Muslim Malays, better brace yourself,learn to fend for yourself, for politically we ( thru UMNO ) is self destructing by the day...the day is near when Malays will surely lose their political dominance because we have weak and corrupted leaders...