How to communicate...lets talk..without walls.

Humans are indeed strange creatures. They never intentionally hurt others,well according to most people anyway,but more often than not they do. This usually occurs in a situation where a person feels ( not necessarily true ) that they are on the defensive and therefore have to be on the offensive in order to "show"/tell others that they are right. Its the human/man's defensive sytem if you like, for to not have any ego is to be seen to be vurnarable or weak...but you should not try to hurt others or try not to hurt others on purpose.Confusing la my sentence...

Anyway i see a lot of this happening in meetings,discussions or even in informal forums of a group of people. Why does this occur ? When a group of people gather or interact,even as small as two,certain emotions come into play. if you are close to that person than these emotions are non existent or at a minimal harmless level.



The wider the gap ( superior-subordinate,teacher-student ) the more complex the emotions involve-fear,insecurity,self esteem or lack of it. The gap could also be a result of a different level of mastery of a language(between 2 teachers-same profession but communicates well in different languages),different level of education (same position but..),experience and background ( Kampong boy, Broken Family,few siblings,large family).



The point is that communication skills is not easy. Its exactly that SKILLS and if everyone can improve on their communication skills it would be a good initial step towards improving human relationships. Some people communicate better when they write but this needs a totally different approach/analysis. What we are trying to analyse here is the face to face verbal communication. Most of the time i get along fine with most people,but sometimes its mission impossible,its as if we are from two different worlds. But there are other times it could be the same person ( that normally we communicate well ) that because of "circumstances" we just cant talk and even end up fighthing. Theres more to this but its just not easy to communicate when youre rushing to do things so till next...