4 september 1982

...today is a very special day for me for various reasons. First and foremost its my 26th wedding anniversary,yep Ive been married for 26 years ! Its been an amazing 26 years, ive been married longer than when i was single ( was 22 ) . Meaning being married is my life and i cannot imagine a life without my wife and my family. which begs the obvious question-why i never tell/write about my family in my blog. I have never really thought about it actually,but its got to do with the early part of the marriage. we married as students and have always done things together-our first child was born exactly ten biological months after our wedding day ! She was born on the 5th july 1983, she is 25 now and happily married herself,pregnant and expecting her first child in Feb 2007. me a grand dad then!

Part of the test of our marriage was the fact that we married so young that when we students and in the early part of our carreers we didnt know how to handle other relatonships-her friends,my friends especially the new ones or the ones who did not know we were married. And during the 80's my circle was less religous and too liberal-this freedom did cause a certain amount of problem in our relationship-but we learn to adapt and compromise to make the marriage work. Yes we were in love-but love alone is not enough to make a marriage work we had to work hard to give our marriage a chance...alhamdoolillah it has lasted this long and i pray and hope that our marriage will last until one of us, breath his/her last breath.

We both dont look our age and when i got married,most people think my wife n i use the marriage excuse to our advantage,actually its otherwise.

So in order not to complicate matters we rarely tell people that we meet for the first time that we are married-everytime we tell people that we were married most people do not believe us anyway. My wife is blessed with a "baby face" ,even today she can pass off as 20's or early 30's and there are times some people still make a pass at her !

In the early years it was difficult for me, but we adjust and accept it. Well thats one of the reasons, i dont know whether it makes sense. The other is we always had to hide from our sponsors ( jpa ) then the fact that we were married,for four years in the states we never introduce to strangers the fact that we were married until we were sure that it was safe. We cannot afford to lose our schlarship as we had a child then and the fact that we both did not want to fail our parents,family and of course our sponsors.( Today is the17th of September-kononnya nak tambah lagi cerita later,but its been soooo...hectic nanti lansung tak post,never mind when the time is right or kalu ada time...)